When our kids are young, we make friends with their friends' parents.
Or our kids become friends with our friends' kids.
Either way, we gather often, mostly around our kids' events.
We have tons in common and so much to talk over.
And then the kids' weddings and their baby showers . . .
. . . and life takes a turn to slow down. Our paths don't cross so often.
We can go months without seeing the friends we used to see so much.
Open the door to perseverance.
That's what it takes as we get older. Intentional pursuit of old (and new) friends.
It no longer happens naturally (unless you are on a committee together).
And it takes work. But it's so worth it. Friends for life.
"Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. "Pooh?" he whispered.
"Yes, Piglet?"
"Nothing," said Piglet, taking Pooh's hand.
"I just wanted to be sure of you."
--A.A. Milne, Winnie the Pooh
(photos are at a friend's house)
Such a good reminder, Dotsie. It's hard, when working full time, to make time for friends - weekends fill up with weeding and planting, cleaning and..........sleeping. I need to make some things happen - see my friends.
ReplyDeleteThis is so so true. It used to happen naturally. There was always busyness involving the children. This was a reminder that I need to make more of an effort.
ReplyDeleteSo true. I admire those who set intentions to be "in touch." My excuses could fill a room.
ReplyDeleteLooks as if you created a lovely evening for old friends.
Dotsie, I can really relate to this!! I almost never see our friends that we knew when our son was growing up, and he's not really that old yet. Everyone stays so busy these days, but you're right -- it takes work. I hope you enjoy your weekend. :)
ReplyDeleteDenise
It is wonderful to have friends you can grow old with and who remember you as you really are. :-)
ReplyDeleteYes…
ReplyDeleteRight now I feel as if I am still in the midst of it and also not seeing some old friends the way I used to. This happens because we have older and younger children. I love seeing my old friends, and am grateful for every opportunity I get to see them.
It looks like you had a good time, and I am glad for your time with your friends.
Deanna
Yes, you are so right. It does take intention and perseverance. By the way, I really like those chair seat "rugs" - did you make them?
ReplyDelete" I just wanted to be sure of you"
ReplyDeleteTrue friends are the ones whose company never changes, even if you don't see each other for a while.
I needed to read this this morning, because my life has both..the empty nest of four and the full nest of two. I miss all those friends from the ball fields of the first four. Thanks for the nudge of perseverance.
ReplyDeleteWe moved to a retirement community 9 years ago and that has made it easy to make new friends. We have lots of activities and neighbors get outside and walk more...and visit more. We love it! Time to plan some BBQs! Hugs!
ReplyDeleteThis is so true, Dotsie. We moved here when our children were older and it's been harder to make friends. But perseverance had paid off and we are blessed with many of them. Still, it does take effort to stay in touch, but it's well worth it.
ReplyDeleteSome of best friends, who are scattered across the world, are those we made when our children were small.
LOVED Pooh, and his pals!!!!
ReplyDeleteSO true, isn't it? Funny, I used to think that when I reached this season of my life, I would have nothing but time on my hands. HA...I have NEVER been busier!
xo Kris
Now that we are retired we are making time for evenings with friends quite frequently. It is so nice to catch up and/or keep up.
ReplyDeleteA lovely post and a very pretty collage. Have a nice week.
ReplyDeleteIt is so true. The same here. We allways go back to our earliest friends who are lasting for life. Have a nice week
ReplyDeleteThis is so true. Our dear friends moved closer to us again after 2 years in the city, and we just don't get together anymore. But, yesterday I got a phone call asking if we'd like to join them at the local diner for supper. We had planned to go anyway on our own so joined them and got some catching up done. Our lives have gotten so busy haven't they. Or so we think. :)
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I were talking about just this the other day. We used to have so many people in and out of our home but now that the kids are grown it doesn't seem to happen much. You're right about having to make an effort to keep in touch. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteGreat thoughts!!! You're so right! Love your pictures!
ReplyDeleteAll the best to you
Elisabeth
It's so easy to grow apart from friends as our lives become busy with our children and grandchildren.
ReplyDeleteAh...this post touches a chord. You are so right...people we used to see and fellowship with on a regular basis, we now see seldom. Thank you for the reminder that connections matter...even as time passes. It is worth the effort.
ReplyDeleteSuch a sweet, and true...post :)
ReplyDeleteI am relating to this so well, thanks for the reminder of perseverance, of friendships. Sometimes we get so busy being in our own little world that we forget of how important friendships are.
ReplyDeleteYour tablescape is beautiful, thanks for sharing.
Blessings,
Sue
What a pretty evening you had for friends.
ReplyDeleteI treasure my time with friends greatly.
xo bj
That's so true Dotsie.
ReplyDeletePeople come into our lives for different reasons, some forever and others not so.
Life is busy working three days but I made an effort to have our neighbours for dinner on Sunday. Their house is upside down as they have the painters there.
It is well with my soul....
I so love Piglet's philosophy on life!
Podso,
ReplyDeleteI applaud you for staying connected. . .
and Pooh is one of my "all~time" favorites!!!
Fondly,
Pat
I loved this so much. It is so true and Piglet is a wonderful friend to Pooh.
ReplyDeleteSo glad that I stopped by tonight to "visit" with you my friend!
Leann
Such lovely thoughts about friends!
ReplyDeleteSuch lovely thoughts about friends!
ReplyDeleteSo true! Our kids made our friends for us and for a long time everything we did evolved around them. Fortunately for us, my husband and I have developed a common hobby and we are really enjoying being with each other with our new hobby. My college friends and I are trying harder to stay in touch and to get together more frequently.
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